Waking this morning was fun, because I wanted to write about natural consequences and then thought about polyamory. Yes, polyamory, which is a loving closed relationship, for adults in the end it raises healthy loving children.
We are going into talk divorce and monogamous communication, I don’t want to talk about monogamous communication, some people find that sensitive like I do. But you cannot get around the FAILURE in monogamous communication that leads to divorces.
This sensitivity to monogamous communication might be my BDSM. Bondage Dominance Sadomasochism is a form of monogamous communication and sexual communication. And it is my preference, but I am a failure at communication in monogamy, so I should talk. Right?
We are human, and monogamous communication is our advertising and media and movie industry and television industry and everyday life. This is pushed on people with out BDSM because BDSM is thought of as a perversion. Yes, safe words that a submissive demands is a perversion. And I need to demand safe words in my life, not just in the bedroom. I think all of us do.
Submissive person is a person who needs safe words, so they have control over a situation.
Dominate person is a person who is the best communicator with listening comprehension.
When a submissive gives the safe word, at any moment during whatever is going on, the dominate hears and stops whatever is happening at that moment to listen. People think that being a submissive is being a slave, that is not truth, that is FETISH SHIT. A submissive is in control of their environment, the dominant is not. The dominant is not a slave to the submissive, again fetish stuff comes to mind.
That is monogamous communication in a controlled sexual manor, but it is found more in polyamory than in monogamy’s because of the judgment that BDSM is a perversion. Some people think, and I am guessing, that BDSM is thought of as an abusive relationship. It is not. It is communicative.
Monogamy can be abusive relationships. That leads to some divorces. And it is in the communication where the abuse lies. If monogamies were the best communicative relationships, why do we need places like Thorn to catch child sexual abusers? Thorn was founded by the action star Ashton Kutcher, not certain how mentioning the founder helps law enforcement see that Thorn is a tool to help them, and I am going after the electorate to form good non-abusive communication to help stop all abuses, but admitting I am human about that as well.
With 40 To 50 percent of marriages failing, there creates at risk children. Here is where Polyamory might stop at risk children, and open up better communication for adults. Monogamy has an issue, the divorce happens, then remarriage maybe of both people, the child from the first now has two step-parents. Those step-parents know the birth parents both of them, well that is the beginning of polyamory. I know the first marriage failed due to bad sexual communication, but the new marriages work, what if just admitting the couple is polyamorous before the divorce happens?
The couple sits down explaining to one another something is missing, well guess what was missing the new marriage person, that individual is loved by one of the members in the original couple. It doesn’t mean those people are in an open swinging relationship, it was just that someone was missing another adult. NOT another child, but the possibility of one is still there.
When you know, and it took me time to get to this place, another adult is needed in your relationship, it is rough. I had this issue, and it was something I did bring up in my own marriage, my ex-husband was not receptive to my communication. That is why I should speak, my ex-husband did have an affair, I liked the woman a Peruvian woman he had the affair with I even made her soup when she was sick but… society did get in the way of this and I know that. It did start the end of my marriage, and I did get him into “marriage counseling”. Yes, I was an acquaintance of the woman my ex-husband had a relationship with.
I do not know her any longer and when the affair happened, I was confused going he’s excited about another woman, how do I handle this, and I handled it poorly. But I did not handle it poorly, I treated her with dignity, not really calling her or my ex-husband names, or doing anything stupidly jealous, and that is why I know I might be polyamorous. When I was told and shown pictures of the affair, I just asked, “what do you expect me to do?”
My ex-husband and I as I wrote have communication problems that are not solvable. I know this, so I should not really speak on that any longer, I am in a different place than he is.
A polyamorous person invites the woman into her home and makes soup when the woman is ill.
Society would state that I am a pervert, just by mention good communication skills. BDSM is good communication skills, and polyamorous is the same. But mentioning good communication and something that might help children becomes taboo.
In a polyamory that I was introduced too after the affair, the men take turns caring for the children, no nanny required because that is their family. There are more adults around, not hired help, that care for the children in that polyamory, and I am interested in that kind of communication in the future.
To get to a point where voters are communicating better, with candidates, we have to look at all forms of family and communication. I am walking down a road least traveled, I hope to find men and women open to comprehending where I am coming from and then they lead with their votes to people that want abuses stopped and offenders incarcerated.