Dirt in the eye balls

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Two children in a sandbox, one is a girl the other a little boy, both mothers off talking to each other having a fun time like the children. The little girl starts crying and the little boy tries to make nice, both moms look up and come over rapidly. Both moms grab the children gently and one is about to get scolded, which one do you think.

I love little boys, they are nice sweet and sometimes you do have to scold for violence. I love little girls, they are nice sweet and sometimes you do have to scold for violence. Yes, both but here is the above story, which got scolded, the little boy, while the little girl gets her eyes washed out.

That is the current women’s politics. Yes once again we have 19.4% women in politics at the centralized government level of the USA. I feel like the women have dirt in the eyeballs, and not seeing what is happening with the men. We preach the statistics but are not seeing the possibility that dirt is in our eyes, and no mommy’s to wash out the dirt.

I don’t know if the dirt in the eyes is an accident. It might be, the little boy might claim it is, that he moved and the dirt flew directly into the eyes of the little girl. 1920 is a gift to women, because no women could run for office at the time. No women held a governors office in any of the states. No woman was able to do much but hold a protest and get arrested for not following the law.

I am going into verbal sexual abuse that I am seeing, maybe I can wash the dirt from my own eyes. As a parent that is what we do anyway, wash the dirt out ourselves or go to the doctor, a little girl cannot wash the dirt from her own eyes. Neither can a little boy.

As an adult I might not like being called a girl, but I call myself that sometimes, like men might call themselves boy. As someone that might call herself a girl, I am seeing that men are verbally sexually abused, was this how women got the vote. After 80 years of protesting, if abuse was the end result to get the vote from the men that would mean the men gave us a toy and then threw the dirt in the eyes. Where was the toy in the upper scenario? It was not there, and the moms did not see it.

Maybe men think voting and law is just toys to play with for women, instead of tools. They gave in, you have it, see women you have candidates, what more do you want!!! I see that, I am hearing that on the media outlets even from women. That means he’s been abused. The man who voted for me to have the vote is being abused verbally in a sexual manner in his mind.

Men, in their minds, are being mentally sexually abused.

What more do you want? Screamed in the Hillary Clinton campaign for presidency. Screamed at Sarah Palin when she ran for Vice President, what more do you want? Men and women who love their sons and fathers and husbands screaming…

Okay, I know where to go, cycle of violence and time outs. How long of a time out is needed before healthy non-abusive debate begins…and voting is not thought of as a toy for women by men.

Men, in this country and around the world have been verbally sexually abused by their women, and some by men, to get them to what give women the vote??? Abused to a point where communication has been broken down to failure.

Voyeurism: The media movie industry drives these exploited people

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I am apart of an exploited group of people, and as I’ve written, I am a female voyeur. That means I get pleasure watching people have sex, but that isn’t the only pleasure voyeurs can have. Being a voyeur is not completely sexual.

Watching the evening weather woman, I am so getting pleasure from updrafts of wind pressure readings and temperatures, but that is a form of voyeurism. I get pleasure still and I am a born in the 197-‘s baby. Yes, I can get pleasure from watching The Little Mermaid still, Walt Disney’s animated version. Voyeurism is not fetishism, yes you can watch a person acting out their fetish and get pleasure from that, but you are not doing that fetish nor are you, well maybe sometimes, wanting to have that fetish to be your own.

I did not get any pleasure from watching the hearing Thorn was in, a tool created by Ashton Kutcher to stop sexual abuse permanently, but that is my work. A voyeur could be working on a case and wanting to stop the sex offender, a police office, the voyeur is not the sexual offender, nor is the voyeur encouraging the behavior, actually the opposite the police officer is wishing the behavior away, hoping the person doing the sexual violence starts following gods rules. (which means children were not created for sexual intercourse.)

I have wished sexual abuse away permanently, I hope others do too with me.

The police officer is still acting out non-pleasurable voyeurism. Which is appropriate to catch something the should not be happening in the first place.

I want people to follow the RULES of being voyeurs, and the industry of media and movies needs to keep putting those rules into what they do… and I think they do. Why this is a celebration article, it is okay to admit to what men do, being a voyeur. And by following the already not spoken rules, I feel safe as a woman to admit, I like the Little Mermaid in my 40’s.

Sometimes we all need, men and women to celebrate the non-abusive rules of society. Those that have NEVER REALLY put men down, and acknowledge, “Yea men look.” Why women cannot look, who knows. I just feel safe, that might be because of men, to admit, I’m like you, I look too.

I am not doing what a man might think though, because I am not jumping up and going with somebody saying, “I’m going to disrespect you and force you to do something you don’t want to do at that moment, and maybe never.” Sometimes people have done this to self admitted female voyeurs. It has happened to me about sex, and it isn’t nice. I am watching, I might not be into doing.

The movie industry gets  loads of my money, exploiting my need for pleasure by watching. So does the media. So does the internet. We are a world of voyeurs, and men will admit it. I am a woman leading this, women are like men, we watch too. Celebrate it!!!

 

Time Out

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I am not a licensed therapist, if you need one go there, I am just a very informed person on this topic of politics. Since I can write that, it is Saturday and perfect day to write about time out.

I’m calling the communication I am working on politics, but if this is applied in small relationships, and parenting then abuses, like I wished for, are stopped.

Politics you cannot take a time out when giving a speech, yes you are on stage, hundreds are watching and you say “I need a one hour time out” after explaining something that is abusive to yourself.

Now what is that one hour time out during a fight?

A speech is not a fight, a debate is, so when a politician is having an argument it is called debating. Still cannot take a time out during a political debate. Sad but true, no time outs there. You just cannot, but you take turns with an argument to find a possible solution or an agree to disagree.

Debating is not what happens in smaller homes unless this little thing is adopted, TIME OUT!

Time out is BDSM, I love this concept, and I use it. So the bedroom can be in the living room no sex involved, and I am not going to, okay I am in your child’s bedroom on clean your room day!!! Every child knows clean your room day, if you have a messy child, the child knows a parent some days lets go of the mess, but then one day it happen, “CLEAN YOUR ROOM!” Is shouted at a child, and guess what the child does, nothing. That fight sucks for the child. But if time out is employed, the frustrated parent might get the room clean without verbal abuse or physical violence.

Yes, time out has to be an adult concept for men and women because a child is not born knowing what time out is. And ADULTS have to use this concept in everyday living. Once again I am  not perfect, I am not your judge, I am just a fellow liver on this planet that has issues like you. I have problems using a concept I enjoy too.

Emotions do get in the way of rational thought, but you can recognize when the emotions are happening to say Stop.

So how do you use time out and recognize yourself in the cycle of violence. IN my case other adults told me I was in the cycle of violence, that isn’t fun, but adults helping adults is this blog, so I’m the people who intervened on my behalf now. And I am going to intervene on behalf of the voting men in this country, telling women time out, MEN GAVE US THE VOTE! And we abused them some, it is showing in lack of representation in congress and senate. Yes we have 19% but… I am seeing something, and maybe the men have too…

Time for my Handcuffs: The verbally sexually abused MAN

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Verbal sexual abuse of men has and still happens, and this sad truth is in our vocabulary. Calling a man “Peeping Tom” when he never looked in the first place,  the man might not have been a Peeping Tom, as I wrote in the last article, but that can cause a man to look into his self worth just with those words. These men are not raped but locked into stereo types and not able to leave them, women have done this to men. And maybe men have done this to men also.

My electorate is male and female, both sides vote, and men gave that right to women in 1920. Men still gave women the right to vote.

There is verbal abuse on men who dress in drag, he’s gay, and they have to take it. There is verbal abuse if a man wears drag and he isn’t gay. There is verbal abuse if a man doesn’t go after a woman the “guys and gals” think that man should go after. There is verbal abuse if a man stays with an ABUSIVE WOMAN, or people think he’s with an abusive woman. If a man wants to be celibate, or abstinence only there is verbal abuses a man endures. There is verbal abuse if he stays with a good woman. There is verbal abuse if he cheats, there is verbal abuse if he doesn’t cheat.

All these verbal abuses are sexual in nature, hence verbal sexual abuse.

Every abuse that is verbal on a man is SEXUAL IN NATURE, hence verbal sexual abuse.

The cycle of violence within just “joking around”,  we all live on this planet, and again I want to talk about how this affects politics and elections.

“Be a MAN.” Is something that I’ve heard said and I have said. That can be perceived as verbal sexual abuse. And that affects elections, in positive and/or negative ways.

How do you stop everyday joking around or actual verbal sexual violence on a man? I don’t want to really stop joking around here. I do want to stop ANY AND ALL verbal sexual violence on men. But if we do not acknowledge a global chronic issue, there is no chance for PEACE ON EARTH, GOOD WILL TO MEN AND WOMEN.

Again I am not perfect, get the handcuffs out police department, because I have issues. I have these speech issues, and in the moment catching them is not easy. I as a woman have probably stated the wrong thing. What I said could be joking around, but I think this has cost women whole elections. I know I am right.

So how do I get men to see what I am seeing. LOOOK LOOOK LOOK!!!!!! I am shouting. I see this, do they see? Nope, a lot of verbally sexually abused men might not be able to look up and see what a woman is seeing in the cycle of violence that they are involved in. And I am not going to throw feather pillows at this issue, so how to solve it? I hope it happens so I can joke around and not be abusive.

I want to empower men to vote for the best candidate, even if she is a woman.

 

Voyeurism: Non-abusive communication is about awareness

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I am not perfect with non-abusive communication, and I think no one can be. But a person can be aware of it. I want to write more about women that enjoy voyeurism, and yes male strippers are known, and written about, but the voyeurism of it might not be. So off with opinion and little facts maybe some truth.

Male strippers are not the only forms of voyeurism that women enjoy, and why not just write about me as a known admitted woman into voyeurism.

I am a voyeur.

First there is the female voyeurism of dance, hence the male strippers, but what about the ballet or dancers in a Katie Perry show. Yes, there is no admitted actual sex involved but there are movements that symbolize sexual acts.

Second the voyeurism of a romantic movie. Yes, stupid sound tracks to tell you when to feel sexual toward the players, and these can be rated g movies, still voyeurism.

Third the voyeurism when public displays of affection are happening, this can get a little uncomfortable for myself, and others, but it is a form of voyeurism.

Fourth ANY MOVIE can turn on a voyeur.

Fifth a political speech can be seen as a voyeurism, you are there watching and smiling about a political topic. This is stimulation for some.

I’ll look for more areas I enjoy voyeurism later… like those wine glasses pictured above could be apart of my voyeurism.

FEMALE Voyeurs might not masturbate, men don’t. So why do women assume to be a voyeur you are lurking with your hands in your pants about men, yes there is an assumption there. MEN DO NOT DO THIS, and they engage in the act of VOYEURISM all the time, some not most.

I am guessing that the assumed hand in your pants voyeurism is about CRIMINAL PEEPING TOM STUFF. Sexual abuse.

This I think is good communication, it opens up a world of same person for women and men. BOTH ARE VOYEURS. BOTH SEXES look, getting pleasure from looking and as long as there is no public masturbations or if you know the rules of your home private/public masturbations meaning masturbations at inappropriate home times in a public space. I know everybody knows their home rules right???

I want to emphasis voyeurism is okay, and men do not masturbate or act on thoughts. Women are the same people. I look at women, my preferred. I do look at men. I am a voyeur and I get pleasure from activities that I can be myself. I love going to the movies, I am not sitting there rubbing my self, tits or vaginal area, if I am at a concert and watching dancers, I have seen this on youtube, nobody is acting out sexually, but the dancers on stage. But that is voyeurism.

Non-abusive communication is the goal, and cycle of violence ending is a goal. Men know the rules they set up, and everybody obeys or the police get involved. I like that. Women obey the same rules. This should be a start to get men to vote for women right?

 

 

Loving Consent

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I fell in love with a polyamorous woman. That does not mean I am a lesbian but it does. I  know that sentence means I want to talk about communication about sex, and I  know there is no secret word from my readers to tell me stop. Remember I am into BDSM and safe words because I am not into sexual abuses.

It was not hard telling her I could not come into her family, where she had two men with her at the time. I lived a few states away. I just wasn’t ready. And I was living far from her at the time. She lives closer to me now, I haven’t seen her in decades, but that is closed. I maybe polyamorous too.

I am not going to seek her out, and hers was a deep loving writing friendship, her love for me was in her writing and I saw that. She was there during my divorce when I needed her the most, and when I found out about polyamorous relationships it was from her.

Yes, she was my first polyamorous love. But I am the one that cannot commit. Just me, I am not into commitments. I am into my self-denial and celibacy, which is my Masochism. I was not practicing my masochism when I told the wonderful polyamorist lady that I could not join her closed family. I was being honest and I had hoped communicated well.

Masochism is when a person takes pleasure in self denial. I am not certain about humiliation, it is added into masochisms definition, I do not think I am a person that gets pleasure from being humiliated. But who knows maybe that is a truth I am not ready to face yet.

Example of a masochist, a comedian, Jimmy Fallon.

I want to make certain everybody knows a polyamory is NOT AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP WHERE EVERYBODY JOINS. It is a closed private relationship like monogamy.

Is it sexually abusive writing about sexual preferences? I don’t think so. But since this is about how people communicate. Masochism isn’t self abuse, people might think it is, but most are very cool with who I am in public. Privately if they have issues, I hope they keep their opinions to themselves, but if they do not, well my opinions are very public.

Being in a polyamory could feed voyeurisms. I am big into voyeurism, I go to the movies when I can and my collection of movies is extensive. I understand people into voyeurism can be exploited by the movie industry and it does this to us all the time. Providing interesting things to watch, so the industry is something I as a person into voyeurism loves.

I am not into sexual abuses of any kind, that is my BDSM and I want to go into that now. Explaining polyamory is a closed relationship is VERY important to me, what is also important to me is to speak on how to stop verbal abuses, again I am not one to speak right, I have to admit to being human and we all have speech issues when it comes to forming language when some terrible mean emotions come about.

Bondage Dominance Sadomasochism  is not about being into abusing.

IF YOU ARE INTO ABUSING PEOPLE YOU ARE FETISH AND NOT BDSM.

BDSM is into CONSENT. What is consent? It is permission to do what you want to a persons body by that person.

IF YOU ARE INTO NONCONSENT, there is a district attorney waiting to meet you and a judge to sentence you to a correctional facility.

ALL BDSM PEOPLE HATE NONCONSENT PEOPLE, consent is the sexual kink in BDSM. AND it is re-enforced in the teaching of BDSM. The safe word in BDSM is to stop any abuse that might be happening or perceived. And that word, as long as it is USED and respected, makes certain consent is right there at all times.

I am going to talk about my voyeurism because Ashton Kutcher did mention what Thorn does do. AND people using children to try to exploit me  and use my sexual kink need life time prison sentences.

I am BDSM, and as I wrote consent is my kink, tell me when a child is OLD ENOUGH TO CONSENT!!!!! They never will be.

I’ll watch Aston Kutcher on screen for Spread. That is voyeurism. I will not watch what Mr. Kutcher mentioned in his testimony, when he was talking about what he founded to catch and free children from sexual abuse: THORN. I refuse as a voyeur to even seek that viewing out.

Voyeurism is seeking out for sexual pleasure something to watch. I have found females very silent about their voyeurism needs, I am guessing it is because of Judeo-Christian family values that women and women’s magazines do not write about Females into voyeurism. I can get away with mine because of the industry, the movie industry. In the past women just were in orgy’s right for their voyeurism?

Anyway, I need to sum this up. People now know more about where I am coming from. I am completely into consensual sex and consensual non-abusive communication. I have not told how I got this enlightenment, just who I am… keep reading, because more women and men will communicate better before I die.

 

 

POV and Audience

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My Point of View is too militant. I want something so badly I opened up this blog, and am going after it. I know I was in retirement very happily wishing to never write one more article again. And it started with John McCain my political party democrats doing written abuse on a dead-man but then I noticed Thorn.

I know this means nothing to people but I means everything to me. That women and children get protection, and that is through congress, senate, and legislatures caring. I know getting that can be difficult. I am supporting candidates that are female or male that will support THORN! Thorn is an organization that builds tools to defend Children against sexual abuse.

SO my militant-ism comes out, and I want to go back in time to figure out how women got the vote in 1920. IT WAS MEN. SO that is my point of view, MEN. How do I get men to see my point of view, because is about me right, not you or the children right. Get it.

Then we go into the he, she, will they see that working together instead of being at adversarial to each other would work better. That comes into my knowledge of the cycle of violence for verbal abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse, were men abused into handing the vote over to women? My point of view again.

If the abuse occurred it explains that lack of 50% support into congress, senate and legislature for women candidates. I am not saying women are abusive in political speech. I am not stating men are either, but I am looking at the reality of the end result, less female representation on obvious FAMILY issues.

Child sexual abuse is something to end permanently so Thorn would stop existing. Currently that dream has yet to happen so the Thorn’s tools are used to catch people that want to harm children sexually. I hope it includes women too.

I am not going to be writing about Thorn or sexual abuse all the time, but I am going to write about the cycle of violence most of the time. I think the country is not aware of the cycles of violence that leads to many forms of abuses. When you are aware of something it is possible to prevent and stop all abuses. So this is a new tool WWAB.

Voters create helping themselves to stop abuses like murder, domestic violence and sexual abuse. So I think they will listen and start looking at themselves to see where else they can prevent the abuses that they elect people into office to stop. Why not become aware of the cycle of violence that is what abusers use on their victims?

I know my POV is militant, my head pointed this out to me. I cannot stop that? Militant means it might turn off one person to stopping violence against women and children. That is unacceptable.

The cycle of violence is the honeymoon, the build up, and then the abuse. So this is about me, my POV, is it shared, I hope so, I saw my POV in Thorn, those tools will help get the victims out already in the middle of the cycle of violence against their little bodies. Why was that not seen by what I counted FIVE of the committee members that Ashton Kutcher was testifying too? Five people did not show up to hear his testimony.

 

 

Some Moms are bigots against Homo-men because they are not reproducing: Rainbow Coalition revised, Yes they protect rights of reproducing

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What do mom’s want, some want to be grandmothers, yes I sighted the Rainbow Coalition and I hope to get this right. It ran into too many ideas I wanted out there with very little information.

It is the right of women not to reproduce, and it is the right of a homo-sexual man to not reproduce. And the Rainbow Coalition helps protect those rights.

I’ve seen mothers  mom’s and some white mother’s reject their homo-sexual sons in the  movies, I have not heard or scene it in reality. And I know that means I am either pushing bs from the movies, or I am bullshiting, or I do know the movie writers are writing the truth…

Abusive speaking can happen toward a homosexual man or lesbian woman. The cycle of violence and verbal abuses ensues. I’ve written about abusive speaking some in my last article and how men in this country might have been abused in the cycle of violence to provide the vote. But what if the men abused by denying that right?

Since men have reproductive rights, even homo-sexual men, women have no right to violent speaking toward homo-sexual men of any color. That speech is the cycle of violence that needs to be stopped.

There was a little boy that I read on twitter, well he was not on twitter, it was a news story, he was 9 years old suicide. The bullies at school got to him, when he came out as a boy who is homosexual. His mother knew that boy came out to everybody just finding out who he was as a future adult, his name Jamel Myles. These young bullies from his school were taught hate speech at home and those were mothers. Maybe fathers teaching that cycle of violence speech.

Now here is the scary part, those bullies are at risk children mimicking their parents political points of view in public and school. That lead to a homo-sexual boy killing himself.

Even if the homo-sexual boy perceived persecution, he is a shining light showing others at risk for becoming verbal abusers, perhaps substance abusers or physical abusers. Is there any at school teachers wanting to teach the cycle of violence to students as a prevention, like sex ed is a prevention toward stds. It might help the bullies from becoming statistics at the state penitentiaries.

I think this is food for thought for the Rainbow Coalition, and other political organizations. Preventing the hate speech when it starts with “what is” violent speech classes at school. Using those classes to find at risk students to place them on a better road of financial success.

So are those moms bigots against that child because his sexual preference was to not be reproductive? I guess the movie industry is right, it is happening, maybe people like me are wished on not to see the bigotry.

 

 

 

Men are Not Women

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There is so much I want to say about this one topic. And others can too, men are simply not women. In 1920, Men gave women the vote. That being said it is like a Christmas gift that was begged for by women for decades since the revolutionary war. Men are just not women.

So begging is woman?  Yes, that is the truth, begging is what it seems to me what women had to do to get to 1920. That is abusive thinking on my part right.

That is cycle of violence thinking? Women begged and men were reluctant to grant a human right to women to own property and to vote? So is the honeymoon over after the vote was given in 1920, are women willing to stop the calm buildup and explode to get back to a honeymoon with men? I don’t want the first woman president to be a gift after women get mad!!!

I don’t want to be in a power struggle with men. I want power sharing. Not a communism because I am a capitalist by admission a long time ago, and I read the Communist Manifesto, by Carl Marx, and it is a concept that simply does not work in practice, when does the supreme dictator step down? To form the democracy? According to the manifesto the dictator sets up the democratic commune and then steps aside. It is a violent way to set up what we have currently, but the USA was not set up by a dictator but by a group of men…a Polyamory.

Our system is a republic, and other systems being elected parliaments work because people are forced or volunteer to step aside. So these systems work in practice, and I with others happily support.

Now I mentioned Polyamory as the way the USA was started, it was a group of men that loved discussing freedoms and not liking zero representation on taxation. That group of men founded this country. Our congress and senate are a true polyamory now, and open non-violent discussions ensue daily about what law needs to be in this home called the USA.

A Polyamory family might be able to get more women into office without abusive communication. Again going back to how women begged for the vote which is truth. There was no open communication, arrests happened on women’s rights leaders, and the cycle of violence happened. It is historic cycle of violence.

While this country was founded on non-violent discussion, the constitutional congress, but had to fight to escape the violence of not being able to have peaceful discussions. And it was violent and bloody escaping a person/country that wanted to control every aspect of the colonies, while the men came from a place/country of semi-peaceful elections to have representation.

Men currently are Great Britain to women, we have some representation but not… Men handed us the taxation representation we wanted but didn’t, the vote with no representation. There should not be a revolution, I don’t want a new country, with what land would women claim, there is no Greek amazon here in the USA. But there is violent abusive political discussion, and I am knowing I am in this political cycle of violence and I want out… I want representation.

 

 

 

 

Monogamy divorce rates: does it lead to cycle of violence or a sign of potential

327269132_Def_LAbout 40% to 50% of married couples in the United States divorce, according to the American Psychological Association. The divorce rate among those who remarry is even higher. – Feb 2, 2018 Google

The chilling truth communication problems in monogamies can lead to divorces. This is differences, the law is what brought the couple together right and the law breaks the couple apart. Communication problems, that some with successful marriages, is what people do not speak on in divorce court. That is the issue of this article.

Does cycle of violence lead to the divorce? In some cases yes. And when this is looked at right, nope this is never looked at, communication. Where to begin?

I am just a political writer with an opinion. But I have studied forms of sexual communication and this is the toughest to write about monogamy communication. I am not a therapist, lawyer, or child advocate. I am just someone that observed in my life experiences that communication in monogamies based on statistics is weak and/or non-existent in 50% of the lawful marriages.

Is the cycle of violence the cause for most divorces? Did the cycle of violence exist before the marriage? Unless there is a licensed therapist all I have are statistics. And maybe those families that are in the cycle of violence communication will get defensive when reading this article.

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This cycle of violence is not in all monogamies, but I have found from observation that it is in some.

Wise Women and Beyond will not be a judge of this, I just want people, women, children and men out of the cycle of violence, which is a cycle of bad communication. If people are in this cycle of violence bad communication how can I hope to get men to support women running for office. How does the country get back to the non-abuse that gave women the vote from willing happy communicative males that were not in a honey-moon period?

If people can pinpoint communication issues they personally have, and I have my own communication issues, I’m far from perfect, rescues into Foster Care can happen faster. Foster Care will be able to speak better to the public and good caregivers will be attracted into the system.

The system at school can see that a child is having speech issues due to speaking from the cycle of violence learned at home, the system can get the child into care faster. Then, a nanny state can be avoided by people in the future, and people can help each other. Isn’t that the goal of social services in the first place? Helping society find less bad communication that leads to abuses of all sorts.

I am not saying monogamies have bad communication all the time, it is just observed.