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Cycle of Violence: This has to be known and understood

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The cycle of violence if unknown, happens, if known happens. It is why we have a court system and full penitentiaries. A huge national budget for all of it. I think with more people aware of the abuses that can happen and do, we can lighten the court systems load on misdemeanors and get those repetitive felons.

Why I hammer home and sound like a broken record, oh six more years of broken record by the way, because this will not stop, it just started, and even I need to be reminded daily about the cycle of violence.

That awareness might prevent a woman from being raped and murdered when you know the signs she is at risk of being in the cycle of violence with her boyfriend. It also can prevent verbal sexual violence on men and prevent men’s murders.

The cycle of violence is the honeymoon, hey you got flowers, the build up, you did what okay let that go you did what let that go you did what… boom explosions happens right? Then the cycle happens again more flowers? I write about the abuses on men and barely have started to touch on the abuses of women. Both sexes have different abuses they go through, men I think, no proof but observation, it is more verbal abuses that can be sexual that they suffer, women it is more physical, psychological and sexual abuses. Why the difference? Physical differences cause the different forms of abuses on each of the genders.

And because of the physical differences we are not seeing what is happening verbally sexually to men daily. Again the chronic condition of society is blaring. I cannot solve this yet, without taking a man down, which is the last thing I want to do.

What does it mean taking him down? It means stripping him naked and showing him where women attack. Yes his gentiles, and sometimes he isn’t attack for sexual reproduction but he’s attack for status, power, money, and there are other excuses. Again the VERBAL SEXUAL ABUSE is verbal, a simple put down of him, and he’s abused, so why would he want to support women, let alone men who support women, when he is the abuse victim.

The cycle of violence starts at home. And then ends up at the ballot booth. The candidates male and female might not know, that a man might be voting based on how he’s treated by women in this society, but this woman has seen this. 1920 MEN GAVE WOMEN THE VOTE. How does that feel reading that again?

 

Verbal sexual abuse endured

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Men endure this daily verbal sexual abuse and this is something on my mind this morning. Verbal sexual abuse that I cannot remove from society.

I do not want to attack the successful business owner, I need jobs. Like everybody else, and I am a bit of a female wage slave myself. I am not a successful business owner, that happened to me, others might not have the same non-success rate. But I am like the 70 year old Babyboomer who worked for Wal-Mart all his life and might get a good pension. And a woman married that man too, like a woman would marry a business owner CEO.

You see the verbal sexual abuse just written down? Don’t you. NO you would not see the emasculation of the man who worked for Wal-mart all his life.

The verbal sexual violence is more on the male Wal-mart employee, than it is on the CEO. But the CEO uses the verbal sexual abuse to build himself up trying to overcome something not able to be over come because this is our society’s language and expectations of men. Yes I do not have an example of a CEO being verbally sexually abused but I will find one… it does exist.

Men are victims of this chronic abuse.

How to say a boys dream come true is to be a life long Wal-mart employee? Okay some men might have that grand dream, and maybe the woman’s dream come true is to marry employee of the month at Wal-mart? Right, with our media going you marry the person who is the art director of GQ. But even the Art Director at GQ magazines masculinity is attacked by assuming his sexual orientation as homo-sexual when he might not be. And that is an abuse we do on men all the time.

People do not assume I am a lesbian all the time, heck I have to come out once in a while and say, “Dad, I’m a lesbian.” Nobody really assumes a woman’s sexuality but they are delighted when they find a woman swings both ways. Maybe that is just media, right.

Men can cut a man down based on assumed ideas all the time on other men. I’ve seen this in the media, and maybe the media has to stop that. Okay, how do you stop emasculating men, when stopping emasculates man? I am running into that thought all the time.

I’m thinking more articles with examples of this chronic abuse will happen on Wise Women and Beyond, so far no solutions but the first examples are written. This will lead to men working more with women on trying for a more peaceful society. NOT a society of fluffy bunny fighters though… a society of strong minded men and women.

 

Recognizing Abusive Communication can lead to finding Male victims Of sexual verbal and written abuse

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I write sex stuff all the time, this started at 15 years old after I read my first romantic novel and got hooked. Was there abusive sex language in that novel? Yes. I know bodice ripper is what I was reading according to some people, I called it romantic novel. But the language, yes I read my first soft porn novel at age 14, there will a parent let a child read what I just wrote I hope not.

This is politics, and politics can only go as far as good non-abusive communication can take it. So if a human woman is taught sexually abusive language toward men from a young age, how do we stop the male victim creation.

The creation of the tough, he shows passion by being angry male stereo type, firmly in the heads of many women planted there by women, is abusive to men. And then my inner bugs speaks up, a man I respect, remember I’m gender Female Woman girl, “What if I want to do that, bodice ripper thing?”

The thoughts are to stop verbal sexual abuse of the Male Man boy, and I am failing miserably. I have these stereo types of men in my head, and I am trying to admit those can be generalizations and abuses of men. This is entrenched in novels that women have purchased in the billions, including me for their sexual enjoyment.

Is anger a good thing to draw upon when you are sexual? I don’t think so.

A sexual assault is about power and control. It has nothing to do with sex, or sexual satisfaction of both people.  The person who does the sexual assault wants power and control over another person.

BDSM is about consent and having consensual talked about sex with a partner, and this can lead to good communication with loads of people outside the bedroom. BDSM does have the power for the submissive because it was spoken about and the couple wanted or group wanted a safe word during sexual intercourse or sex play.

So in recognizing that there is entrenched sexual verbal and written abuse that a man endures, how do I find these victims and then find coping mechanisms for them. So far men have acted out a bit… see there is the female abuser… were men actually acting out as being abusive by not listening to women still wanting the vote??? Of course they are not acting out right? But “acting out” is an abuse term you acted out making me… instantly telling women that men are still the aggressor against helping us get the vote for the first woman president or more women in business.

This is going to be difficult, and this was inspired by Thorn, again a tool to help children get away from sexual abusers. Well, I am happy what happened this weekend lead to this. More to come…

Time for my Handcuffs: The verbally sexually abused MAN

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Verbal sexual abuse of men has and still happens, and this sad truth is in our vocabulary. Calling a man “Peeping Tom” when he never looked in the first place,  the man might not have been a Peeping Tom, as I wrote in the last article, but that can cause a man to look into his self worth just with those words. These men are not raped but locked into stereo types and not able to leave them, women have done this to men. And maybe men have done this to men also.

My electorate is male and female, both sides vote, and men gave that right to women in 1920. Men still gave women the right to vote.

There is verbal abuse on men who dress in drag, he’s gay, and they have to take it. There is verbal abuse if a man wears drag and he isn’t gay. There is verbal abuse if a man doesn’t go after a woman the “guys and gals” think that man should go after. There is verbal abuse if a man stays with an ABUSIVE WOMAN, or people think he’s with an abusive woman. If a man wants to be celibate, or abstinence only there is verbal abuses a man endures. There is verbal abuse if he stays with a good woman. There is verbal abuse if he cheats, there is verbal abuse if he doesn’t cheat.

All these verbal abuses are sexual in nature, hence verbal sexual abuse.

Every abuse that is verbal on a man is SEXUAL IN NATURE, hence verbal sexual abuse.

The cycle of violence within just “joking around”,  we all live on this planet, and again I want to talk about how this affects politics and elections.

“Be a MAN.” Is something that I’ve heard said and I have said. That can be perceived as verbal sexual abuse. And that affects elections, in positive and/or negative ways.

How do you stop everyday joking around or actual verbal sexual violence on a man? I don’t want to really stop joking around here. I do want to stop ANY AND ALL verbal sexual violence on men. But if we do not acknowledge a global chronic issue, there is no chance for PEACE ON EARTH, GOOD WILL TO MEN AND WOMEN.

Again I am not perfect, get the handcuffs out police department, because I have issues. I have these speech issues, and in the moment catching them is not easy. I as a woman have probably stated the wrong thing. What I said could be joking around, but I think this has cost women whole elections. I know I am right.

So how do I get men to see what I am seeing. LOOOK LOOOK LOOK!!!!!! I am shouting. I see this, do they see? Nope, a lot of verbally sexually abused men might not be able to look up and see what a woman is seeing in the cycle of violence that they are involved in. And I am not going to throw feather pillows at this issue, so how to solve it? I hope it happens so I can joke around and not be abusive.

I want to empower men to vote for the best candidate, even if she is a woman.

 

My own Hypocrisy 9/11

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This sad day happened and for me I was here in Anchorage, Alaska, on Lake Otis, well a little off that road near Dimond BLVD, and I was getting a phone call. “Amanda, have you seen what is happening?” I turned on TV and there it was a burning tower. I was unsaved then, since my save date for taking Jesus inside is 9/22/2011.

I was no where near my fathers home, on Muldoon Rd, off of the military base. I was no where near my family in New York State, and I did talk to my dad later about where they were, no where near luckily. Like everybody else I watched the towers fall to the ground with footage going over and over and over and over of the planes, two, hitting the towers.

My reaction over the past couple of decades, well, it really isn’t a couple of decades, nearly, has been what I am, and this Mutt will take time to explain where I come from.

Terrorism is an act of creating fear. I refused to be fearful while I watched this nation grieve. I complained and partied. And nobody was complaining and partying, maybe privately. I did so on line many times, and yes even today I want a 9/11 music mix to sing to and say the dead in those towers deserve smiles and memories that are good created today. The people in the PLANES deserve nothing from me. ABSOLUTLY NOTHING!!!!

I mean the pilots not the passengers.

Something kicks in from my Irish/Native American grandfather side of my family, and that side had married my grandmother the Russian/polish woman which I do not think has if you grieve you party like the Irish. On my mom’s side what I do is highly inappropriate but she was English/native mix her mother and her father would’ve been shamed with his French/Mediterranean (African northern). Muslims are photo’d grieving, and my grandfather was catholic, so not Muslim, but he had traditions that were clearly that region of the world.

My Irish/native American hard working grandfather (dad’s Side) did party, a lot and laughed and was one of those men you go good man, he just partied a lot with his family. He might have told me what I did was inappropriate like many other people have. I still want to celebrate the victims lives. NOT BE FEARFUL BECAUSE…it might happen again.

Some movies were told to be made too soon, this person might have publically agreed which is my hypocrisy. I am a hypocrite, on one hand I did my thing to honor the victims of the pilots, while Hollywood did the same thing, I’m the same as the action stars but I was a hypocrite, them too.

I hope to stop my hypocrisy and start enjoying 9/11 tribute movies. I haven’t yet, and I want to add them to my party today, I do inappropriately but very IRISH OF ME.