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We have MADE PROGRESS WOMAN!!!!!

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The build up is right there, the honeymoon since 1920 is over, 1920 was when men gave the constitutional human right to vote to women… when is the next explosion. I can predict men will explode and a fury of backlash abuse is about to begin. I and other women have mentioned our goals, and might be perceived as abusive.

Men do not want to be perceived as stopping progress, or seen as the abuser. They are not abusing these gentle giants of men. I am seeing this. I really am, and I am hearing from the media outlets what men are saying… how to stop this and gain the goals as partners?

The next explosion is the next woman president but do women have to be abusive to get that goal reached? I do not think we do, because we have worked together the sexes for millennium.

How does the vote happen for a woman president without the explosion, and I am not the national global parent here for the men, I am not putting men in time out for correction and I am especially not spanking all of the men (I only will spank one grown up man), I am just a woman with the same goals as other women, knowing I speak my goals, get listened too, and then hear “We have made progress woman.” In a gentle but annoyed tone.

The glass ceiling is right there, and it is covered in slim of abusing men. I cannot stand by and let that happen, I want the glass cleaned up, not dark black slim on a dirty carpet, I want that glass to be see thru and the oval office right there, taken because of capabilities not taken and broken into because I slapped men in the face calling them ugly idiots. Doesn’t it seem idiotic that you are not voting for the woman because she has abused you? Doesn’t it seem idiotic to not support the abuser? Who the fuck supports a fucking abuser anyway? I don’t, and I do not expect men to support women that abuse them into stuff, including sexual stuff, the men never wanted to do in the first place.

So how do I stop the abuse on men and get them to see capabilities. Even if the person capable is a woman. Right now I am seeing that men have been abused into doing stuff for women, instead of convinced they are learned, capable, gentle, lovers, and… fill in the blank if you know what men really are…

More to come and explore… wise women and beyond… no more abuse. No more abuse. No more abusing the men.

 

Playing It Cool: PIC

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I am so wrong, I am so wrong, I am so wrong.

Yup I’m all wrong.

I am a Woman.

And I am so wrong.

Verbal sexual violence on men doesn’t exist, and per another voice in my noisy brain write about visual sexual violence. Yea I really know about men being visually sexually abused. I am so wrong, I have no clue about visual sexual violence.

A beer belly man watches while a woman is reading a hot man cover on a romance novel. Okay they did change the covers eventually to the boring no fucking hot man on the cover, some of the current covers. I have no clue about this, I am totally bullshitting, I didn’t want to write about this abuse of men with beer belles in the first place or the abuse on skinny men, like Topher Grace.

That was visual sexual abuse of the romance novel industry right? And yes they did change the covers… did I repeat myself? Yes I did, told you I have no clue.

I want voters, and men vote. And the abuse on men has happened to the point of me pointing it out, a nobody with industry issues, those in the industry know my issues already, so I am safe but not safe.

I named this article from a Chris Evans movie, called Playing It Cool, why because it illustrates a man not knowing what falling in love really is, it isn’t exactly a romantic movie, and he’s hot. No I a mean Chris Evans is romance novel cover hot man, did I just abuse my male readers? And I am a self admitted romance novel reader in a previous article. Who else is in it, a man from That 70s Show, how did I get that wish, anyway… Topher Grace. BTW SAME PERSON rings in the head for Topher Grace…

I think the movie is an abuse on men because men know what falling in love is, and what sexual reproduction is, but it, the movie, needs to be made and so far I like the writing of the movie. The writing drew me in after Chris Evans hot body drew me in, did I just abuse Chris Evans?

So visual sexual violence on men is body image abuses, these abuses happen to women too. And Topher Grace is not hot to me, but to other women he is, his skinny body coveted by women who are with Beer Belly fat men happened to him on Thats 70’s show, and the abuses visually on the fat man happens with models at H & M. Did I just abuse Topher Grace by admitting I find Chris Evans more attractive to me… this is truth that happens to men all the time.

Does this affect his vote at the ballot box? I think it does, and that might mean a man judges appearance of the man’s wife or the appearance of woman that is on the ballot, like women look at physical but eventually go for personality. I think that is the truth as well.

I wish to write the truths about visual sexual violence on men and verbal sexual abuses that men endure since birth to find a way to stop this chronic thing that happens, then maybe women and men can lead this country USA and the world as equals. Here’s hoping.

 

 

BDSM and cycle of violence ending

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Cycle of violence communication can end with BDSM. It is in the safe word where it ends the uncontrollable violent emotional responses, it is a NO that people will listen to with agreements.

Dominant is the person who can do what he/she wants.

Submissive does what the person in the room says, until the moment that what the person in the room oversteps a boundary the submissive has for self.

It takes the dominant learning a deep listening with listening comprehension. That one word has to be heard, and comprehended then the behavior or words in use stops. I know we are human and this loving sexual language has yet to be adopted, even by me completely, but I have.

This is loving stopping the cycle of violence. And yes if you played the game red light green light as a child, that is BDSM in a group. It took listening during movement for a child to stop when Red Light is called. And zero abuse happens. Instant stopping, instant time out, and it was a fun game for children to play.

So why not play that as an adult? Or during living room discussions about the rules of the house? And then how about using that safe word during a political debate that leads to votes at the ballot box?

No, no, no, yes we say it but some people are so stupid, they don’t BELIEVE IT. And you go the district attorney is right there to teach you the NO word. I’m okay with No’s why I’ve been all over this country. And sometimes as I stated the BDSM communication has not been perfect with me.

You can learn what I learned about BDSM in therapy and in anger management classes. And yes in school when we are children we learn what the word no.

So this is how I propose to stop the verbal sexual abuse on men, but it still seems not solvable yet without emasculation of men… we still have to raise little boys into strong minded voting men. We need a safe word for men, we do not have one yet, and women have got to become the best listeners after all, because men listened and we got the vote. Not certain if that listening had abuses attached to it by the women. I’ll find out…

Fear based Politicians

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Innocent until proven guilty creates the fear based politician, not the confident the state takes care of everything politician of the guilty until proven innocent countries.

I support the USA Republic, and I support the 19th amendment granting the right to vote for women in 1920. My understanding is that I am looking at what creates our politicians and we have some of the best in the world, but we have the best because of fear, not because of a lazy mentality that the state takes care of everything for me.

The countries of Guilty until proven innocent are not bad countries, the rude American tourist is born due to our political system, not the relax the police will take that guilty person, then oops you were innocent? Ours, in the USA, is your innocent even if you were caught red handed and seen by multiple witness that tell the truth (a witness can lie).

The sad part is with this system, and it can happen in the USA, if you say, “Child molesters go to prison.” You can be fired for inappropriate conversation. And you go? What the fuck? I got fired for wanting child molesters/sex traffickers in prison, isn’t that where they belong? Child molesters/sex traffickers do not belong free to harm more children. I was shocked when this happened to me, now twice, and I was like well I’m not working for that manager ever again, creep.

I didn’t want to write about 2016, but this is what happened, my daughter was at school May 5th, Seattle Washington, I get a text, “Our daughter is in the children’s hospital for evaluation.” I went WTF! The text was later, “Our daughter is okay, she was chased under a cafeteria table by a teacher. There was a small wound on her arm from the teacher.” And no charges was brought on the teacher for assault by the Police department of Seattle Washington, I was working for Walt Disney Corporation at the time and decided to retire from political writing. I was living in Orlando Florida.

I went nuts. How could a teacher physically assault a student without charges being brought, and the children’s hospital just did the evaluation? Innocent until proven guilty, and the teacher did confess to chasing the student under the cafeteria table. My child, daughter, was 9 years old.

A couple of months later, July 2016, I got another text, “Our other daughter is in the hospital for evaluation.” A few hours later, “She is out, she took her shoes off in the grass at the Boys and Girls club and was attacked by an adult caregiver. She defended herself from the attacker. The hospital has released her.” No charges brought against my daughters attacker again. Innocent until proven guilty, and this time it was because my daughter removed a garment (shoes) outside to run in the grass. She was 8 years old. This is 2016, I was living in Orlando Florida, my daughter Seattle Washington.

I know my daughters were attacked by abusive adults, I don’t know how abusive, but when a woman or female child is taken into the hospital for evaluations, it isn’t just for her mental state.

I did just get fired recently for saying publically and explaining 2016, I bet it was misunderstood, for stating, “Child Molesters belong in prison.” Carrs Northern Lights Anchorage Alaska. (it is creepy working for managers that do not like safe children, and I am fired for explaining I want my children’s attackers in prison) It is inappropriate to want people who harm children mentally and sexually in prison according to a few managers I have run into. The location is in Anchorage Alaska. I am looking for a new job to support my children again.

I was recently saved, and my anniversary of that is Sept 22, 2011, my baptism Nov 18, 2012, I am very new at some stuff. I am happy about being a saved Christian, that saving of me lead to a very abusive divorce, and I remain faithful. My divorce, is why I mention this is that I know my girls and one tiny son who just turned 9 years old are at risk. They are in the Seattle School System while I have traveled around the country finding work. I no longer work for Walt Disney due to saying “Child molesters go to prison.” I am sorry this drove me a bit bonkers, my two girls victims of people in school and daycare of assaults.

So I support Thorn 100%, having three at risk children, I want the law enforcement to have tools to stop what happened at the school and Boys and Girls club. The congress people should  have shown up, this is important to parents, so important I have gotten fired over this issue.

 

 

 

Slave birthing bus

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I am a poor person that needs a time out, and everybody in my home is pissed off, so taking the time out first.

Rosa Parks eat your heart out, do you sit in the front of the bus before you see the bunk bed, or do you pass it like I did, and stare at a bunk bed in the middle of the bus. This is public transport, not a musician or groups tour bus.

I know there is a good reason for bunk beds with rails so children do not fall out on Anchorage Alaska public transportation, one excuse that comes to mind a potential new ambulance?? I am not going to look up the reason, this is my reaction. I know the bus schedule is not an over night long range schedule. And where do you put a wheel chair on that bus, the bunk bed was right where normally there would be a wheel chair break area for someone with a disability that required that kind of loving assistance from public transportation.

Bunk Bed in the middle of the bus. I felt abused, and the above picture is why. Public transportation is used by everybody, EVERYBODY of Every color. It is for a rainbow of people, I know I’m the one with the issue. I know I’m the person seeing this, nobody else because guess what that bus has been around I am assuming for years in the Anchorage Alaska fleet of public transportation busses. I don’t know if I can board a bus here in Alaska again, and I might have to due to my poverty.

I was a kid in a bunk bed so why does the bunk bed on a public day transportation for short term transport bother me. Here’s why?

They used bunk beds to transport slaves chaining them down to the beds, this is public transportation, once again owners of slave ships used bunkbeds to transport slaves to market. Anchorage Alaska has a good public transportation system that does not need to be shut down but one bus needs to be altered, because I don’t want to be abused again. I am thinking other might not as well, if they knew the truth. And I was on my way to do a job, well interview for one, I was being transported to get my wage slave… okay remember I’m the one with the issue here. Right? It is just me with this issue???

It is Taboo to Communicate Well

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I do not know how Culture Club with Boy George is Taboo, this is the beginning of a series of article on taboo conversations. That the way we speak to each other can be taboo. And it isn’t just on taboo topic matters.

I was looking for a picture for this taboo article, one was a TV show named Taboo, sick painting of naked adults, one a naked woman masturbating and then I ran into Boy George, and went how is he Taboo. I grew up singing loudly and badly to one culture club hit song, Chameleon.

He’s not taboo. He’s not a taboo topic to speak of, and yes he is a gay man. So a man being gay on a google search is the search word in images Taboo, is taboo. Boy George is the image of Taboo. See I’m in shock.

So is it a taboo topic to speak on this, well if you do not know how do you know how society feels about somebody. I know the search is because of a title to an article. So indexing, yes the indexing was because of a original Broadway show Taboo 2003. I really never heard of that, so did I self abuse? By thinking this is terrible a favorite singer is taboo? Might be… guess what that is a taboo topic.

It was silly of me to think Boy George Taboo how terrible, the Taboo show isn’t Taboo. Was it abusive of the audience to call the show Taboo, yes I know lovable Boy George. The Cycle of violence needs to be applied to what I just did… Honey moon I love Boy George… Build up this cannot be true…. explosion I’m writing about it. Okay see the cycle of violence isn’t so bad right? It happens right?

It is taboo speaking on the cycle of violence, but not taboo to talk about the cycle of water, the sun evaporates, the evaporated water rises forming rain clouds, and then the rain happens to fall from there, and it starts all over again.

I apologize to Boy George because I do not want him abused, I never heard of Taboo the Broadway show.

I do want to continue writing about Taboo topics, and I have one taboo topic is Thorn a tool to stop sexual abuse on children founded by Ashton Kutcher, hardly anybody showed up at the committee meeting when Ashton Kutcher was testifying. There was an audience behind him that saw one to two committee members and no others.  The committee is bigger than four people right?

 

Cycle of Violence: This has to be known and understood

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The cycle of violence if unknown, happens, if known happens. It is why we have a court system and full penitentiaries. A huge national budget for all of it. I think with more people aware of the abuses that can happen and do, we can lighten the court systems load on misdemeanors and get those repetitive felons.

Why I hammer home and sound like a broken record, oh six more years of broken record by the way, because this will not stop, it just started, and even I need to be reminded daily about the cycle of violence.

That awareness might prevent a woman from being raped and murdered when you know the signs she is at risk of being in the cycle of violence with her boyfriend. It also can prevent verbal sexual violence on men and prevent men’s murders.

The cycle of violence is the honeymoon, hey you got flowers, the build up, you did what okay let that go you did what let that go you did what… boom explosions happens right? Then the cycle happens again more flowers? I write about the abuses on men and barely have started to touch on the abuses of women. Both sexes have different abuses they go through, men I think, no proof but observation, it is more verbal abuses that can be sexual that they suffer, women it is more physical, psychological and sexual abuses. Why the difference? Physical differences cause the different forms of abuses on each of the genders.

And because of the physical differences we are not seeing what is happening verbally sexually to men daily. Again the chronic condition of society is blaring. I cannot solve this yet, without taking a man down, which is the last thing I want to do.

What does it mean taking him down? It means stripping him naked and showing him where women attack. Yes his gentiles, and sometimes he isn’t attack for sexual reproduction but he’s attack for status, power, money, and there are other excuses. Again the VERBAL SEXUAL ABUSE is verbal, a simple put down of him, and he’s abused, so why would he want to support women, let alone men who support women, when he is the abuse victim.

The cycle of violence starts at home. And then ends up at the ballot booth. The candidates male and female might not know, that a man might be voting based on how he’s treated by women in this society, but this woman has seen this. 1920 MEN GAVE WOMEN THE VOTE. How does that feel reading that again?

 

Verbal sexual abuse endured

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Men endure this daily verbal sexual abuse and this is something on my mind this morning. Verbal sexual abuse that I cannot remove from society.

I do not want to attack the successful business owner, I need jobs. Like everybody else, and I am a bit of a female wage slave myself. I am not a successful business owner, that happened to me, others might not have the same non-success rate. But I am like the 70 year old Babyboomer who worked for Wal-Mart all his life and might get a good pension. And a woman married that man too, like a woman would marry a business owner CEO.

You see the verbal sexual abuse just written down? Don’t you. NO you would not see the emasculation of the man who worked for Wal-mart all his life.

The verbal sexual violence is more on the male Wal-mart employee, than it is on the CEO. But the CEO uses the verbal sexual abuse to build himself up trying to overcome something not able to be over come because this is our society’s language and expectations of men. Yes I do not have an example of a CEO being verbally sexually abused but I will find one… it does exist.

Men are victims of this chronic abuse.

How to say a boys dream come true is to be a life long Wal-mart employee? Okay some men might have that grand dream, and maybe the woman’s dream come true is to marry employee of the month at Wal-mart? Right, with our media going you marry the person who is the art director of GQ. But even the Art Director at GQ magazines masculinity is attacked by assuming his sexual orientation as homo-sexual when he might not be. And that is an abuse we do on men all the time.

People do not assume I am a lesbian all the time, heck I have to come out once in a while and say, “Dad, I’m a lesbian.” Nobody really assumes a woman’s sexuality but they are delighted when they find a woman swings both ways. Maybe that is just media, right.

Men can cut a man down based on assumed ideas all the time on other men. I’ve seen this in the media, and maybe the media has to stop that. Okay, how do you stop emasculating men, when stopping emasculates man? I am running into that thought all the time.

I’m thinking more articles with examples of this chronic abuse will happen on Wise Women and Beyond, so far no solutions but the first examples are written. This will lead to men working more with women on trying for a more peaceful society. NOT a society of fluffy bunny fighters though… a society of strong minded men and women.

 

Recognizing Abusive Communication can lead to finding Male victims Of sexual verbal and written abuse

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I write sex stuff all the time, this started at 15 years old after I read my first romantic novel and got hooked. Was there abusive sex language in that novel? Yes. I know bodice ripper is what I was reading according to some people, I called it romantic novel. But the language, yes I read my first soft porn novel at age 14, there will a parent let a child read what I just wrote I hope not.

This is politics, and politics can only go as far as good non-abusive communication can take it. So if a human woman is taught sexually abusive language toward men from a young age, how do we stop the male victim creation.

The creation of the tough, he shows passion by being angry male stereo type, firmly in the heads of many women planted there by women, is abusive to men. And then my inner bugs speaks up, a man I respect, remember I’m gender Female Woman girl, “What if I want to do that, bodice ripper thing?”

The thoughts are to stop verbal sexual abuse of the Male Man boy, and I am failing miserably. I have these stereo types of men in my head, and I am trying to admit those can be generalizations and abuses of men. This is entrenched in novels that women have purchased in the billions, including me for their sexual enjoyment.

Is anger a good thing to draw upon when you are sexual? I don’t think so.

A sexual assault is about power and control. It has nothing to do with sex, or sexual satisfaction of both people.  The person who does the sexual assault wants power and control over another person.

BDSM is about consent and having consensual talked about sex with a partner, and this can lead to good communication with loads of people outside the bedroom. BDSM does have the power for the submissive because it was spoken about and the couple wanted or group wanted a safe word during sexual intercourse or sex play.

So in recognizing that there is entrenched sexual verbal and written abuse that a man endures, how do I find these victims and then find coping mechanisms for them. So far men have acted out a bit… see there is the female abuser… were men actually acting out as being abusive by not listening to women still wanting the vote??? Of course they are not acting out right? But “acting out” is an abuse term you acted out making me… instantly telling women that men are still the aggressor against helping us get the vote for the first woman president or more women in business.

This is going to be difficult, and this was inspired by Thorn, again a tool to help children get away from sexual abusers. Well, I am happy what happened this weekend lead to this. More to come…

We are Human

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Waking this morning was fun, because I wanted to write about natural consequences and then thought about polyamory. Yes, polyamory, which is a loving closed relationship, for adults in the end it raises healthy loving children.

We are going into talk divorce and monogamous communication, I don’t want to talk about monogamous communication, some people find that sensitive like I do. But you cannot get around the FAILURE in monogamous communication that leads to divorces.

This sensitivity to monogamous communication might be my BDSM. Bondage Dominance Sadomasochism is a form of monogamous communication and sexual communication. And it is my preference, but I am a failure at communication in monogamy, so I should talk. Right?

We are human, and monogamous communication is our advertising and media and movie industry and television industry and everyday life. This is pushed on people with out BDSM because BDSM is thought of as a perversion. Yes, safe words that a submissive demands is a perversion. And I need to demand safe words in my life, not just in the bedroom. I think all of us do.

Submissive person is a person who needs safe words, so they have control over a situation.

Dominate person is a person who is the best communicator with listening comprehension.

When a submissive gives the safe word, at any moment during whatever is going on, the dominate hears and stops whatever is happening at that moment to listen. People think that being a submissive is being a slave, that is not truth, that is FETISH SHIT. A submissive is in control of their environment, the dominant is not. The dominant is not a slave to the submissive, again fetish stuff comes to mind.

That is monogamous communication in a controlled sexual manor, but it is found more in polyamory than in monogamy’s because of the judgment that BDSM is a perversion. Some people think, and I am guessing, that BDSM is thought of as an abusive relationship. It is not. It is communicative.

Monogamy can be abusive relationships. That leads to some divorces. And it is in the communication where the abuse lies. If monogamies were the best communicative relationships, why do we need places like Thorn to catch child sexual abusers? Thorn was founded by the action star Ashton Kutcher, not certain how mentioning the founder helps law enforcement see that Thorn is a tool to help them, and I am going after the electorate to form good non-abusive communication to help stop all abuses, but admitting I am human about that as well.

With 40 To 50 percent of marriages failing, there creates at risk children. Here is where Polyamory might stop at risk children, and open up better communication for adults. Monogamy has an issue, the divorce happens, then remarriage maybe of both people, the child from the first now has two step-parents. Those step-parents know the birth parents both of them, well that is the beginning of polyamory. I know the first marriage failed due to bad sexual communication, but the new marriages work, what if just admitting the couple is polyamorous before the divorce happens?

The couple sits down explaining to one another something is missing, well guess what was missing the new marriage person, that individual is loved by one of the members in the original couple. It doesn’t mean those people are in an open swinging relationship, it was just that someone was missing another adult. NOT another child, but the possibility of one is still there.

When  you know, and it took me time to get to this place, another adult is needed in your relationship, it is rough. I had this issue, and it was something I did bring up in my own marriage, my ex-husband was not receptive to my communication. That is why I should speak, my ex-husband did have an affair, I liked the woman a Peruvian woman he had the affair with I even made her soup when she was sick but… society did get in the way of this and I know that. It did start the end of my marriage, and I did get him into “marriage counseling”. Yes, I was an acquaintance of the woman my ex-husband had a relationship with.

I do not know her any longer and when the affair happened, I was confused going he’s excited about another woman, how do I handle this, and I handled it poorly. But I did not handle it poorly, I treated her with dignity, not really calling her or my ex-husband names, or doing anything stupidly jealous, and that is why I know I might be polyamorous. When I was told and shown pictures of the affair, I just asked, “what do you expect me to do?”

My ex-husband and I as I wrote have communication problems that are not solvable. I know this, so I should not really speak on that any longer, I am in a different place than he is.

A polyamorous person invites the woman into her home and makes soup when the woman is ill.

Society would state that I am a pervert, just by mention good communication skills. BDSM is good communication skills, and polyamorous is the same. But mentioning good communication and something that might help children becomes taboo.

In a polyamory that I was introduced too after the affair, the men take turns caring for the children, no nanny required because that is their family. There are more adults around, not hired help, that care for the children in that polyamory, and I am interested in that kind of communication in the future.

To get to a point where voters are communicating better, with candidates, we have to look at all forms of family and communication. I am walking down a road least traveled, I hope to find men and women open to comprehending where I am coming from and then they lead with their votes to people that want abuses stopped and offenders incarcerated.